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Finally, A Happy Anniversary

A mere three days away will mark a year of putting myself first. And in the past year I’ve learned a lot. Come check out my discoveries asI attempt to tell you whats been going on in the last year of being single…

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Liebster Award!

This post is long overdue! I was nominated for the Liebster Award by How To Ruin A Relationship back in July 2013! Sadly – because I was still new to WordPress as well as being severely Pingback and Notification challenged (and simply because I’m from New York) – the email confused me and my first thought was, “Okay who’s ass do I have to kick?” But I soon realized, with melting heart and warm fuzziness of appreciation and genuine thanks, that I was nominated by an awesome blogger! Thank you! 

Now let’s see if I can follow directions… I am blonde, after all!

The Liebster Award
Nominated by How To Ruin A Relationship You all need to follow this blog; it’s like relationship-remedy porn. Thank you for the nomination! You totally rock!


  • Thank the Liebster Blog presenter who nominated you, with link back to their blog. ( I would have done that anyway! )
  • Answer the 11 questions you were asked and create 11 of your own questions to ask your nominees. ( Okee dokee! )
  • Nominate 11 blogs of your choice: New, old, just-found, following, or you think deserve some notice, and let them know they’ve been nominated!  ( okay! )
  • Show off the Award photo on your blog!  ( Double check! )
  • No tag backs. Meaning, you can’t just re-nominate the person who nominated you.  ( Okay, check! )
  1. Maya Angelou said, “I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way (s)he handles these three things: A rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.” How do you handle all three?
    (Rainy Days: I wear my hair curly instead of blowdrying it straight. This way I can get wet and dirty without guilt!
    Lost Luggage: This happened during my honeymoon, and although I’m now divorced, I’d probably do the same thing I did back then – sit at the bar by the pool, have a drink and wait til the luggage arrives. I’d say get naked if I have to, but that depends on who’s with me…
    Tangled Christmas Tree Lights: Untangle maybe with coffee or a cocktail. 🙂
  2. Greatest regret? (I’d say it was marrying my bipolar, alcoholic ex-husband, but then I wouldn’t have my spectacular 7-year-old son. So I’m going to stay with “Accepting years of psychotic, dysfunctional, negative B.S. from my parents and not making my own decisions.” It seems that the best decisions that I’ve made in life were the complete opposite of what they wanted. *Blog posts to come!
  3. Something you would like to improve about yourself? (The “character” gap on the side of my otherwise fine teeth, the nasty rope-like vein that’s marring my otherwise fantastically, athletically sexy legs, and losing the last 10 pounds. All do-able… Ha ha, I said “do-able.” I’m do-able. LOL…)
  4. Something you’ve done that you never thought you’d ever be able to? (100% disconnect from my completely dysfunctional, toxic parents. I went from a family of 6 to just me, so I feel like an orphan and it’s incredibly difficult to deal with at times. But after many years of mental torture and negativity, I’ve finally found peace and extreme happiness. And, thankfully, I have my son and a sister now and lots of friends and some pretty awesome co-workers as well!)
  5. Better to have loved and lost or to never have loved at all? (The former. We all learn from loving and losing. Sometimes it’s as simple as learning how to kick someone’s ass. Sometimes it’s not so simple – like being the bigger person and just walking away without a word.)
  6. What is your dream career/job? (Are you currently doing it?) (I want to own my own successful business. At the time I originally wrote this award post, I was actually in the middle of forming a business with two partners, but it dissolved when I declined to go to dinner with one of the partners… anyone want to hear about it? Lol)
  7. Song you just can’t get enough of right now? (At the time I received this nomination, it was Beautiful – Mariah Carey ft. Miguel… On a positive note about the song, it was nice to hear Mariah not doing exhausting vocal acrobatics. Lately I’ve been listening to Ed Sheeran’s “Sing” and… oh hell… here’s a screen shot of the songs I’ve been listening to on iTunes…  )
  8. If you had known then what you know now… (This has a lot to do with regrets, and as much as I’d like to avoid some of the B.S. that I’ve been through in my life, I learned so many lessons from all of it as well. I just wouldn’t be the same person today without the struggles. Sappy… Okay… How about this: If I knew all that Viagra Empanada at Empanada Mama on 9th Ave. was that many calories, I would have gone for the salad.)
  9. Book that literally changed your life? (There are two: Sherry Argov’s “Why Men Love Bitches” and “He’s Just Not That Into You,” by by Greg Behrendt  and Liz Tuccillo. I’ve mentioned these books a few times in this blog. Sherry does a brilliant job of interviewing hundreds of men for the book so the information is straight from the source. It’s like being inside a guy’s brain. And Greg & Liz cut to the chase in their book. I think too many women – and sometimes men – allow themselves to live in denial. This book cuts the cloud of B.S. and gets to the point.)
  10. Most meaningful piece of advice you were ever given in life/love? (As my boss yelled at me for something I didn’t do, he said, “The rules are different for everyone. They shouldn’t be, but they are.” I’ll carry that with me everywhere because I was raised with siblings and the belief that everything had to be fair. But it’s not and never will be. )
  11. Were you a bad pick or bad picker in your relationships? (Clearly my “Picker” is broken – hence this blog – but I’m working on it and have made huge improvements.)


And now…

Without further adieu, I present my nominees for the Liebster Award (and don’t forget your questions, they are listed below).

  1. The Funtasian
  2. Valley Girl Gone Country
  3. Sex & The Cincy
  4. Cross Stitch Bobobitch Mononitch
  5. hart Chronicles
  6. Yup she said it
  7. Happily Ever Laughter Blog
  8. Mademoiselle (Making It Happen)
  9. Aussa Lorens. Hacker. Ninja. Hooker. Spy.
  10. Girl Seule (The ‘S’ Word)
  11. The Rules Revisited

Here are your questions! 

1.) What motivated you to start your blog?

2.) What draws your attention on other’s blogs?

3.) Compare yourself to an ice cream flavor.

4.) Name a memorable moment while dating.

5.) Briefly describe a memorable breakup in your dating career.

6.) What age would you guess the blogger, 1YearOfSingle is? Why?

7.) On what other social media sites is your blog – where else can we find you?

8.) Give us your best dating tip:

9.) Name five of your favorite stores.

10.) What celebrity(ies) do you think you’re similar to and why?

11.) What do you think about fresh breath?


Here are the same questions with my answers!

1.) What motivated you to start your blog?

I was aimlessly dating for years when I realized I really need to get to know myself better before I look for a partner. Being single allows me to feel guilt-free while I explore my own wants and needs, because after dealing with my parents for decades, I was under the false impression that marrying was mandatory. Logically I knew that was untrue, but preconditioning is a tough thing to beat. And chronicling my revelations is just a way of sorting ideas as well as helping other folks who may have felt alone in their lives.

2.) What draws your attention on other’s blogs?

I have a degree in journalism, so it’s always the headline for me. And its got to be something worth reading. A revelation, advice, news – things like that.

3.) Describe yourself to an ice cream flavor and we’ll guess the flavor.

I’m richly roasted, blended with subtle hints of nostalgic creamy history, sometimes dressed with syrupy sweetness, occasionally revealing a chip. But I almost always leave you energized and motivated afterward.

4.) Name a memorable moment while dating.

After leaving the restaurant with my date, he stopped me before the car and said, “Here,” and handed me a cloth napkin from our table. He added, “You can keep it as a token of our first date together.” I laughed nervously but declined. He then added, “Keep it or I’ll beat the shit out of you.” Yeah. Needless to say I didn’t keep the napkin nor him.

5.) Briefly describe a memorable breakup in your dating career.

One guy tried to maneuver himself into staying overnight at my place by dropping his keys into a sewer. “Oh well,” he said, “I’ll just have to stay here tonight because my keys are at least 20 feet down…” In no way did I want him to stay over. I straightened three wire hangers, twisted them together, then — using a flash light — lowered them skillfully into the sewer, hooked his keys and brought them to safety. I then  flipped the keys to him and bid him a Good Life.

6.) What age would you guess the blogger, 1YearOfSingle is? Why?

I can’t tell you that! It’s an anonymous blog! You’re only supposed to know I’m a blonde New Yorker. 

7.) On what other social media sites is your blog – where else can we find you?

InstagramTwitter, Facebook (not used really) Pinterest & Flickr

8.) Give us your best dating tip(s):

Retain your own interests and personality. Speak up. Be partners. Be a team – always.

9.) Name 10 of your favorite stores.

Banana Republic. Whole Foods. Victoria’s Secret. Athleta. Target. Pier 1 Imports. B&H Photo. Venus. Pottery Barn. Starbucks.

10.) What celebrity(ies) do you think you’re similar to and why?

A cross between Jennifer Anniston & Jenny McCarthy. For style, and personalities, including serious & silliness.

11.) What do you think about fresh breath?

Totally mandatory. If a guy can’t take care of his teeth, it’s a display of other issues. And it reeks. No one wants to tongue tango a trash can or ash tray.
There you have it! I look forward to everyone’s posts. Hopefully yours will be up sooner than mine were! LOL
Congratulations, everyone!


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(Sort-of) New Exercise Bike!

Ask and ye shall receive!

After reading The Secret, I’ve been trying to concentrate on a positive, successful future. One of smaller successes that I’d love to accomplish is on my To-Do list: Lose that Last 15! After I canceled cable I started watching The Biggest Loser via Hulu Plus, and have absorbed how much they use exercise bikes. But not knowing a thing about exercise bikes, I wasn’t about to spend hundreds of dollars.

My aunt started a Buy & Sell group on Facebook and added me. Low-and-behold, someone posted a exercise bicycle for under $200. I asked a few questions and purchased the bike. Whoohoo! … only problem was that it sat in my car for almost three weeks while I tried to figure out how to get the heavy thing up the stairs to my apartment.

Score! Tonight a photographer friend of mine stopped by and the two of us hauled it up the stairs. It’s heavy! And the good news is that my friend said this particular bike is professional. Which is awesome! I’m just hoping it doesn’t cave-in the floor. Ha!

Again, I know nothing about it so I’m going to research it all. If you’ve got any suggestions, feel free to let me know!

Heaven sent, baby, heaven sent! (Unless it falls through the floor…) Heaven sent, baby!


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