the final exam

 ine of the hardest things I had to do was not only let go of toxic romances, bit to let go of toxic parents as well. If these people are too ignorant to know your worth, it’s not worth having them in your life. Think of all the leasons in life and consider this your final exam. After the smoke clears, you’ll be free with a happiness you may never have fathomed possible.

 

got stalkers? you have two choices

 
 “We have two choices in life: We can cower when someone scares us, or we can meet them at the door with a bat.” -1YearOfSingle I’m not much for buying into the victim role anymore. I give myself all of 30 minutes to be freaked out at stalkers and whatnot, then get ready for the long hall. I played soccer in school. At one game, a mega-giant girl and I were head to head chasing down the ball. I could tell she was someone who let her size intimidate other people. And yet before the game was over, she was on the ground and I had possession. It’s hard to beat someone who refuses to be scared.

could have, should have, would have

 
 Don’t stress the could haves. If it should have, it would have. / It kills me when people say, “But we were meant for each other” or “we were perfect for each other. That’s crap. If they were so perfect for each other, they’d still be together. I started training myself to concentrate on that aspect of the breakup, not what I thought “should have been.” What we think “should have been” is just what we really wanted. So jot it down on your “want” list, and move on. 

you, the moment your ex realizes…

  

watch me do it

Watch me do it. I’ve spent a lifetime listening to boneheads tell me how and why my dreams are too big or wont work. They can kiss my rotund @ss. They’ve proven all the negative talk and thinking will get me nowhere. Now I’m going to prove that all my positive talk and thinking will get me somewhere. Watch me do it. 

  

i’ve been featured!

  

I’ve had the honor of being featured on the Instagram profile of @amytoday! She’s got a wealth of positive quotes among the beautiful smining images. Check her out 🙂 Thanks again, Amy! ❤

heal everything

  

Getting your body back in shape after a breakup is a great idea not only for your heath, but for peace of mind. But don’t underestimate the power of therapy. Most exes try to make us think we’re crazy. Splits really boil down to irreconcilable viewpoints. But it can damage your self esteem and even throw you into a depression. So consider the health of your mind along with your beautiful body. With the right therapist, you’ll heal in a way you never thought possible. 

be glad there’s no snow

  

Think of it this way: I may be April and cold, but at least there are no more snowfalls!

squirrel!

  

I come from a long line of folks with limited attention spans. Once, a friend of mine pointed-out that my family never let me finish a sentence at the dinner table. “I felt bad for you,” he said, “They just kept cutting you off. You never got out a full sentence.” He was one of my best friends in college, and had the displeasure of accompanying me to my parents’ house one weekend. 

Nowadays, the toxic psychos are out of my life, but the ADD residue lingers. A neighbor once witnessed me cleaning my apartment. “You clean with A.D.D.,” he said. 

“What? No, it’s Lysol foam bleach,” I replied, very “blondely.” “I got it from BJs Wholesale last weekend. Oh —remind me I need to get papertowels…” 

“No,” he laughed. “A.D.D. — Attention Deficit Disorder. That’s you. That’s what I call it when the person starts cleaning in one room, then somehow ends up in another room. You need to finish cleaning one room before you move on to the next or you’ll never get anything done.” 

“I do finish cleaning some rooms,” I attempted. “I usually get the kitchen done. Oh my God my toast! My toast is burning!” 

When youre going through a divorce, commuting long hours to and from work, and working in side projects for extra cash, theres a good chance that focusing on one task wont be your forte. Gotta cut yourself a break, really. You’re doing the best you can. 

One of my Instagram followers replied in the comments that this Someecard totally represented her, and added one of my favorite lines from the Disney movie, Up: “Squirrel!” And yes, she hit the nail on the head. If you havent seen the movie, at least YouTube the scene. I’d post it here but oooh look, ice cream…

travel alone if you must, but travel

 
This used to make me so angry. No one wants to get involved. And the abusers know that. So the victims are left abandoned to fend for themselves in their shock. No wonder the cycles of abuse continue. The solution: Stop buying into the victim mentality and save yourself. It took me a long time to accept this. But I did. And this road less traveled DID make all the difference.  

abusers

 
 Abusers don’t want you to leave because you’re such a loyal victim. / My mother used to say,it doesn’t matter what we do to you, you’ll always come back. You’re the good one.” It was manipulation at it’s finest. But guess what, Mommy Dearest? You were wrong about that too #FreeAtLast 

today

 
Don’t ruin a good today because of a bad yesterday. Start fresh every day if you have to until being happy is natural. Reset. Reset. Reset. You can do it.  

which is it?

 
They say if it’s right, it’ll be easy. So which is it? Lol 

The enduring hurts more than the end

  

this, too, shall pass

 The bad times will end, so hang in there. I used to wonder how long it would go on — especially if you’re dealing with lawyers or court. Don’t worry — it’ll end. Even if it feels like an eternity.