Dealing with other people’s awesomely fun Facetime statuses

Okay, so I’m new at this. But the message is still the same: Just because folks post awesome statuses doesn’t meant their lives are like that 100% of the time. And while we’d love for everyone’s lives to be fabulous all the time, it’s just not possible. So don’t fool yourself into believing you’re the only one in a breakup, the only one with poor health, the only one with unsupportive parents… Consider Facebook the best of society’s social life. And give yourself a break. As a matter of fact, if you’re in a tough time right now, consider staying off Facebook for at least a week.

Well, THIS happened…

Bettye, you’re so awesome you have no idea. Sometimes we lose sight of the things that really matter – you really just put it into perspective for me. ♥️

So… I apologize for my diversion from fashion and plus-size life posts, but this is what’s in the forefront of my life, time, head and heart these days. Last week I posted about the anger and heartbreak of starting to lose my hair. This weekend it *really* started to come out fast. In the shower it would just all mat up into a solid bird’s nest around my head. Trying to untangle it just made giant clumps come out. THAT was an emotional day and many tears were shed over the sinkful of hair. So I went ahead and scheduled a head shaving at a salon in my new town.

What was left before I went. Not much in the front, some length still in the back. Sort of a Friar Tuck look. Not really good.

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And here we go. Morgan the stylist was so sweet and gentle and patient…

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Don’t be talked into a relationship…

 

“I’m not sure I can deal with two wives,” I said,
“Oh come on,” my friends said, “Give him a chance, he seems like a nice guy.”

“He’s in the middle of a divorce,” I said.
“Oh come on,” my friends said, “Not everyone is your ex…”

These were HUGE red flags to me. And yet – being raised as I was from parents who made me feel like I was less valuable than livestock (chickens, ducks, cows) – I decided my friends must know better than I did, and continued with red-flag-relationships, right into disaster and separation.

So Part 1 of this lesson is: DO NOT LET FRIENDS NOR FAMILY CONVINCE YOU TO DATE SOMEONE THAT YOU ALREADY BELIEVE IS A RED FLAG.

What do YOU think?? Has this happened to you before? What did you do? How did you handle it?

*Check in for more on this soon! And in the meantime, follow me Instagram and SnapChat @1YearOfSingle!

 

 

 

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Over stimulated

There are so many topics I want to cover that I’m at a frozen standstill. Lol

‪For years I prayed to God for a loyal, witty, loving guy. He delivered. My son is now 10 ♥️🙌🏻👨🏼‍💻

“Max Capacity”

If you check out my Periscope replay, you’ll hear me talk about hitting “Max Capacity.” It’s our limit for life’s B.S. Check out my personal chats on Periscope.tv

Live Broadcasting: Live Breakup Recovery Help

If I had someone out there willing to listen to me immediately while I had a meltdown in my apartment about the last schmuck that wasn’t worth me, I would have been able to condense my breakup recovery into half the time. And while I could research a thousand articles, what good was it when I barely found anything even remotely related to my situation?

That’s why I’m broadcasting live. Starting with Periscope, I’m giving you a possibility to communicate one-on-one with someone who’s been there multiple times, and knows how to heal quicker than ever. Healing after a breakup is a science, and I’ve got it down.

With Periscope, you can enter anonymously if you want, listen, or ask questions and make comments – without others making you feel like… well… a dumbass. And I’m not only helping women here, I’m – ironically – helping a lot of guys too. In my friendly, everyday, sweet, purdy New York style. Okay? Eh? No sweat. You got this.

Check out @1YearOfSingle on Periscope. Live Broadcasts Thursdays at 10pm and Sunday’s 10pm (ET).

Live Broadcasting: Live Breakup Recovery Help

 

M.U.T.

🌸When I’m single, I feel more free. When I breakup with someone – even when I broke up with my parents – my first thought has always been “What can I do now that I haven’t been able to do before?” Sure, it shouldn’t be that way, but you’re dreaming if you think your partner likes everything you do (or likes to do everything that you like to do). We’re human – it’s simply impossible. And who would want all those similarities, anyway?

So in that vein, I introduce the Mismatch Underwear Theory – or M.U.T.. It basically is a symbol of freedom. I feel freer to do what I want when I’m single – like wearing mismatched goods. Hey, it’s just my thing. Another example: I watch more girlie movies. Another example: I eat Java Mocha Chip for dinner. No biggie.

Make a good point about your Mismatch Underwear Theories below OR Singledom theories below – or at my Instagram (link below) and I just may add you to my bog, or mention you in my upcoming Live Broadcasts! 🌸🙌🏻🌸 Bam! -1YOS

🌸When I'm single, I feel more free. When I breakup with someone – even when I broke up with my parents – my first thought has always been "What can I do now that I haven't been able to do before?" Sure, it shouldn't be that way, but you're dreaming if you think your partner likes everything you do (or likes to do everything that you like to do). We're human – it's simply impossible. And who would want all those similarities, anyway? . So in that vein, I introduce the Mismatch Underwear Theory. It basically is a symbol of freedom. I feel freer to do what I want when I'm single – like wearing mismatched goods. Hey, it's just my thing. Another example: I watch more girlie movies. Another example: I eat Java Mocha Chip for dinner. No biggie. . Make a good point about your Mismatch Underwear Theories below OR Singledom theories below in the comments and I just may add you to my bog, or mention you in my upcoming Live Broadcasts! 🌸🙌🏻🌸 Bam! -1YOS

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Stay true to your dreams!

You are not your yesterday


Progress: You might not be where you want to be, but you’re also no longer where you used to be. 

It’s so easy to disregard progress we’ve made when we’re still on a journey to a specific destination. But if we look back at the progress made, we realize how much of a struggle it was, how much work we’ve done, and we should really be proud instead of disregarding it. So no, we may not be where we want to be-but we’re certainly not where we were yesterday. 

Keep working on your goal – tomorrow you’ll be even further along. Do not give up! Do not give up. Keep going. Don’t look down. Eye on the prize, my friends, eye on the prize. 

The crushing stress of success

Let’s talk about the fear we have in relation to IF we succeed. It’s real. We feel like we need to have solutions before the problems even present themselves. That’s not good. If you’re fearing success, but you’re working through it anyway, comment below.


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