The guy I was seeing was missing in action the other night. I had a strange homeward-bound commuter crisis where he had been one of the people I texted in my panic. But where everyone else replied within a half hour, his breezy reply came the next morning, not asking me how I am or what happened, but saying his cell phone died and that he “hopes it all worked out.”
I asked my friend Jen how long it takes to charge her phone. “Well its not even that,” she replied, quite intuitively, “it really only takes a minute or two for the phone to turn back on once you plug it in again.”
And yet it takes this guy 14 hours to charge his phone.
I started thinking about his reply, “I hope it all worked out.” If you study that statement’s structure you’ll realize it offers no platform for replies. Its a simple statement offering no potential for conversation. It reflects his concern: You’re on your own.
I’m not the type to rail a guy for his high-school level of dating maturity, nor will I entangle myself in a dramatic argument asking where he’s been for days. I believe that if you like me well enough, you’ll show it. Clearly he doesn’t, and isn’t.
When I consider other excuses I’ve received in the past from this guy, it’s a wonder his number is still in my phone.
Please comment and let me know what excuses you’ve gotten while dating!