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What I’m NOT Doing

Screw what I’m doing. This is what I’m not doing: I’m not contacting “him.”

You know at some point you’ve all had a “him” or a “her” that you’ve wanted to contact, but knew you shouldn’t. Let’s marinate in this feeling for a moment: Remember how difficult it was to not contact that person? Remember how horrified you were when – if you did contact them – you felt like a complete jackass because it didn’t work out like you wanted it to once you did contact them?

Well, I didn’t contact him and I feel like a million bucks.

This weekend has some interesting scenarios that – if he was a regular friend – I’d be involved in. But screw it, I’m sticking to my Lessons Learned, especially #2. I’ll be honest – I had about eight moments when I literally had the phone in my hand but thought, I’m not investing in someone who isn’t investing in me, and I put the phone down. You would have been proud of me. Hell, I was proud of me.

By not doing something, I am doing something else: I’m valuing me. And hot damn it feels awesome!

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One Last No

It’s heartbreaking when you have to deny the person that you like.

No, not like that – get your mind out of the gutter.

An ex sent me a sweet text asking how I am. After a brief exchange I realized that no, I can’t do it – I can’t be friends with someone who I dated, liked, and is once again working on his marriage. I won’t wait around for someone to value me. So I told him briefly what I was thinking, thanked him for everything and wished him well.

It’s difficult, but 1 Year of Single is about learning to value myself, and I’ll be damned if I go back on that.

Happy Thursday, y’all.
Be strong.