Screw what I’m doing. This is what I’m not doing: I’m not contacting “him.”

You know at some point you’ve all had a “him” or a “her” that you’ve wanted to contact, but knew you shouldn’t. Let’s marinate in this feeling for a moment: Remember how difficult it was to not contact that person? Remember how horrified you were when – if you did contact them – you felt like a complete jackass because it didn’t work out like you wanted it to once you did contact them?

Well, I didn’t contact him and I feel like a million bucks.

This weekend has some interesting scenarios that – if he was a regular friend – I’d be involved in. But screw it, I’m sticking to my Lessons Learned, especially #2. I’ll be honest – I had about eight moments when I literally had the phone in my hand but thought, I’m not investing in someone who isn’t investing in me, and I put the phone down. You would have been proud of me. Hell, I was proud of me.

By not doing something, I am doing something else: I’m valuing me. And hot damn it feels awesome!