Yes or no?

What do you think?

The universe also hates my muffin top

Ever hear of a MuffinTop? It’s when your fat squeezes over the top of your waist line and causes a puff somewhat akin to the actual top of a muffin.

I’ve considered giving up and being overweight, but I’m not happy with myself in photos. What disturbs me more is if I decide to be heavier, I’ll have to buy an entirely new wardrobe. I don’t have the tolerance for that — especially since I’d rather put the money toward a new camera lens. 📷

Imagine my surprise when — after literally saying “Hey universe, bring me a treadmill!” — a good friend texted and said “Hey, I have this treadmill I’m not using. Do you want it?” I wasn’t even surprised. I just said yes!

In the last few years I’ve learned that I have no tolerance for myself to be grossly overweight. And so I will try again to get into shape. I’m hoping my fat shrinks significantly because the only muffin tops I want to see are the ones in the neighborhood bakery.

Xoxo

-1Yos

Dealing with other people’s awesomely fun Facetime statuses

Okay, so I’m new at this. But the message is still the same: Just because folks post awesome statuses doesn’t meant their lives are like that 100% of the time. And while we’d love for everyone’s lives to be fabulous all the time, it’s just not possible. So don’t fool yourself into believing you’re the only one in a breakup, the only one with poor health, the only one with unsupportive parents… Consider Facebook the best of society’s social life. And give yourself a break. As a matter of fact, if you’re in a tough time right now, consider staying off Facebook for at least a week.

M.U.T.

🌸When I’m single, I feel more free. When I breakup with someone – even when I broke up with my parents – my first thought has always been “What can I do now that I haven’t been able to do before?” Sure, it shouldn’t be that way, but you’re dreaming if you think your partner likes everything you do (or likes to do everything that you like to do). We’re human – it’s simply impossible. And who would want all those similarities, anyway?

So in that vein, I introduce the Mismatch Underwear Theory – or M.U.T.. It basically is a symbol of freedom. I feel freer to do what I want when I’m single – like wearing mismatched goods. Hey, it’s just my thing. Another example: I watch more girlie movies. Another example: I eat Java Mocha Chip for dinner. No biggie.

Make a good point about your Mismatch Underwear Theories below OR Singledom theories below – or at my Instagram (link below) and I just may add you to my bog, or mention you in my upcoming Live Broadcasts! 🌸🙌🏻🌸 Bam! -1YOS

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🌸When I'm single, I feel more free. When I breakup with someone – even when I broke up with my parents – my first thought has always been "What can I do now that I haven't been able to do before?" Sure, it shouldn't be that way, but you're dreaming if you think your partner likes everything you do (or likes to do everything that you like to do). We're human – it's simply impossible. And who would want all those similarities, anyway? . So in that vein, I introduce the Mismatch Underwear Theory. It basically is a symbol of freedom. I feel freer to do what I want when I'm single – like wearing mismatched goods. Hey, it's just my thing. Another example: I watch more girlie movies. Another example: I eat Java Mocha Chip for dinner. No biggie. . Make a good point about your Mismatch Underwear Theories below OR Singledom theories below in the comments and I just may add you to my bog, or mention you in my upcoming Live Broadcasts! 🌸🙌🏻🌸 Bam! -1YOS

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Even Rome Fell

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Time moves on. You may have been with someone since your teens, but people change. Lives evolve. Time moves on.

Feel Special

2015/01/img_1314.jpg Your relationship should be one where you feel liked and appreciated. Of course this is not a constant, and there are fluctuations in all things, but if your partnership depresses you or you’re constantly searching for affection, it’s probably not the relationship you should be in.

Live your own life

2015/01/img_1310.jpg If you return to a nutjob because your family wants you to, your friends don’t want anything to change, or your kids are scared, you’re doing it for them, not you. Life your life. They have their own.

How do they handle the aftermath?

2015/01/img_1236.jpg Let’s say you live the guy/girl, and it’s been some time and you’re talking again. Have they addressed what happened? If you honestly believed they were at fault, were they capable of saying anything, let alone “I’m sorry”? I dated one guy who lied huge, unmistakable lies. He not only completely disrespected me, but tried to tell me I was harsh to him when I discovered his huge, obscene lie. Balls. It’s possible to move on with someone who makes a mistake, but how do they handle the aftermath?

Best Advice

2015/01/img_1063.jpg The best way to be happy with someone who doesn’t want you is to move on.

The feeling you get…

2015/01/img_1062.jpg For all of you who are going through hell right now, this one is for you!

Don’t Waste Your Time… More

2015/01/img_1010.jpg No one is perfect, especially when I’ve gone through the hell of dealing with a cheater. So when I finally reach the point when I’m ready to pull the plug, I can’t help but think, “Should I mess with the jerk a little? Inject a little paranoia and guilt? or just cut him loose? While I always toy with scenarios of how to make his life the equivalent hell that he’s so guiltlessly made mine, I haven’t — as of yet — poured the time, nor energy into the revenge scenario. Why? Because the d-bag already stole enough of my time; I’m not gifting him with more!

You & Your Friends?

2015/01/img_0975.jpg Sometimes when I go through my comments, a brilliant quote arises on its own. Lol

Check out most of my brilliance on Instagram: 1YearOfSingle

What we think about, we bring about

/home/wpcom/public_html/wp-content/blogs.dir/b3f/52627338/files/2014/12/img_0644.jpg And unfortunately if it’s anger or resentment, then you’ll get more anger and resentment. Do yourself a favor, and when you start thinking about how someone is pissing you off, stop yourself and think of that one thing that makes you happy. Get yourself a Positivity App if you have to.

Clinging to the past?

/home/wpcom/public_html/wp-content/blogs.dir/b3f/52627338/files/2014/12/img_0450.jpg There comes a point in a toxic relationship where you have to choose YOU over the past. Sure you may have “invested time,” but what does that matter if the person you’re now with is no longer who they used to be? It doesn’t matter if they WERE or COULD be who you want them to be. If they’re not NOW, then they’re NOT. You now need to think about why it’s so important to stay with someone who doesn’t appreciate your good qualities.

Positive While it Lasts

IMG_0360.JPG Sometimes posts like this make me want to scream. It’s not always easy to be happy and positive! Like someone posting it will make think, “Oh hey, you’re so right! Let me get on that right now!”

But honestly, when I put in the effort to stop myself from wanting to kick some asses, things actually do get better. And they get better quickly.

So here’s “the thing”: You can be miserable 100% of the time because you think “bad things are going to happen anyway – so why bother,” OR you can HAVE and allow yourself to enjoy glimpses of happiness while you have them until all hell breaks loose.

From what I can see, one of these scenarios offers happiness, and the other doesn’t. Your choice.