Some of you may have been wondering where I’ve been, and I love you for that. A few months ago I received a voicemail from Married Guy’s wife, accusing me of ! him, which was a joke because he and I weren’t even speaking since the summer when I called it off so that he can make his last-ditch-effort to be with the woman who cheated on him. But after suffering seeing him weekly, then hearing that voicemail, I confronted him his in office. He apologized profusely and said she’s just desperate because she knows that he’s “done” and even told me that “she won’t sign the paperwork, I even went as far as offering her money.” I was stunned and quite happy to hear he chose a direction. He seemed quite determined, but it seemed his decision to proceed with the divorce lifted a weight from his shoulders. I believed him.
I also told him that if she was going to call me and accuse me of things months after I stopped speaking to him, that she can go scratch now. I was trying to be respectful, but at this point – quite honestly – I had no problem spending time with him since he was proceeding with everything.
And so weeks pass and things were fine. I feel like he was going through what I had when I left my husband – so I gave him the benefit of the doubt.
Last night during a texting conversion he told me that he never said he had (divorce) paperwork. And after I regurgitated several ways in which he did indeed tell me “she won’t aign the paperwork,” he basically ended the conversation.
At which point I told him to lose my number.
A year ago When I met him, I gave him the benefit of the doubt because I had gone through the same situations when I left my husband. Months ago I gave him the benefit of the doubt because he seemed to honestly have a direction, wanted a healthy relationship and wanted to protect his kids. And up until yesterday he told me things to support that theory.
I think I’m in shock. I’m so tired of being lied to. Theres such a fine line between being trusting and being a door mat. And people say, “Be careful!” But honestly – how do you really do that?
I’m so numb and disheartened by the entire thing. But I do want to thank the guy on the train for giving me a tissue. Thanks, guy.